How Setting Intention Improved My Confidence
So today I’ve moved away from menopausal issues I’ve recently been writing about.
Certain events led me down another path this week as I realised I was lacking confidence in my blog. This involved finding and setting an intention and I can say that by doing so, it has naturally improved my confidence!
The journey started over the August bank holiday with me sitting with a cup of tea in a quiet sunny country pub garden ( still off the booze 🙁 ) There were a couple of tabloids on the table and I spotted the headlines;
‘A Med Diet Is Better For the Heart Than Stains’
‘Fish and Olive Oil Better at Treating Heart Disease Than Statins’
With an articles entitled;
‘State Should Give Out Veg, Fruit and Fish to Help Heart Patients Live Longer, Say Experts’
Basically the premise was that the Mediterranean diet could be better than statins at reducing the risk of heart disease. The diet hailed as, ‘more powerful than any drug’ is high in fruit, veg, fish, nuts, whole grains and olive oil. The greatest impact on positive results using this diet, was from a high consumption of veg followed by oily fish, fruit and monounsaturated fat such as that in olive oil.
Now let me explain how I read this…a diet high in natural foods i.e. fruit and veg, oily fish, nuts, seeds, whole grains, with minimal meat, minimal saturated and polyunsaturated fats…is good for you
No shit Sherlock!…and this made the front of the papers…and was a surprise to expert medical consultants at the world’s biggest heart conference….
Frankly I was shocked…so what did they believe? That an alternative diet high in red meat, take-aways, pizzas, dairy, burgers, white bread and pasta, sugar….was ok and of no harm??!
I was speechless…
Then I realised something…before I studied nutrition I had NO IDEA what foods were doing to my body. I had no idea that a piece of fruit a couple of times a week was not enough, that the full English a few times a week wasn’t doing me any favours; I hated greens and thought by having some cabbage once a month I was doing a great thing…
So why should anyone else know about food? It can be a minefield out there trying to choose the ‘right’ foods and healthy ways to eat.
Something stirred in my being and I wondered why I was so het up about this article…People should know what food does to them! It’s insane! The wrong foods can kill you!! They must know!! This knowledge should be compulsory! Then I took a breath and calmed down…but something had hit me and stayed niggling inside me…
Moving along the journey, a girlfriend who I just don’t get to see enough as she lives abroad, told me she was reading my blog. I found myself surprised. But she’s so busy? She spends time reading my blog?! Why was I so surprised? She subscribes so why not? She didn’t subscribe as a favour!
I then remembered a previous reaction to another friend’s news of subscribing – again surprise and immediate thoughts of inadequacy
I realised that I was well and truly lacking confidence.
There’s always the thought at the back of my mind whilst writing, ‘What will people think of me?’… forever seeking approval. But I know I’m not alone in that!
But you can’t appeal to everyone. You can’t have everyone like you. Do you like everyone you meet? You can’t please everyone. So why set yourself the impossible challenge?
I needed to find confidence in my voice and the key to confidence is to have an intention
How Setting Intention Improved My Confidence
I did have an intention for my blog but it was a little blurred around the edges and I didn’t really ‘feel’ it, still finding my feet.
I wanted to be able to focus on an inention and not try to please everyone.
The final leg of my journey came during another conversation later in the week with another girlfriend (you can’t underestimate the power of girlfriends :)) struggling with weight and digestive issues we discussed eating habits, meal preparation, time issues, money issues. As she left, I felt that niggling feeling stir inside me …here right in front of me was a dear friend in need of support, in need of knowledge and guidance and I was able to give her that! Wow!
My intention and confidence collided!
The Intention That Improved My Confidence
If I keep hold of this intention which has come from within me then I don’t care if people don’t like me or what I say …I’m being true to myself and I now have something to focus on.
So what was the intention? Needs tweaking but…
My intention is: to support those who are struggling with health issues through increasing their knowledge of the benefits of nutritious foods, stress management and creating a healthy work / life balance.
That is after all why I’m training to be a naturopathic nutritionist!
So if you lack confidence in doing something, focus on finding your intention, why you truly want to do something and the confidence will naturally flow…
Thanks girlfriends – you know who you are 🙂 xx
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